If you haven't read Waiting for Birdy: A Year of Frantic Tedium, Neurotic Angst, and the Wild Magic of Growing a Family, grab a copy from your library and give it a shot. There were so many relatable moments in this memoir, and I found myself taking pictures of pages to quote later.
One such quote reads:
So long as that boy is safe and sound, he can feel however he feels.
Age three seems pretty world changing for the wee ones. (At least that's been our experience around here.) There are new feelings and explorations and independence. There are more expectations and responsibilities and goals. And to complicate all of these bits of newness is the same sweet, itty bitty babe still inside needing to rear his face every now and then and just exist in innocence.
Then we went ahead and introduced a little brother into the picture and shook an already volatile world. W is such a wonderful brother, and my heart fully believes God knew exactly what He was doing gifting this family with these two souls.
That's not to say we haven't had (and daily have) our share of jealousy and adjustments and acting out. Sure, it's part age three, part new sibling.
I have always wanted to fix people's feelings, set their hearts in complete peace, and I have gotten caught up in wanting to make The Sheriff's adjusting just so. But we don't grow in perfection. God works in the middle of a tangled spirit to form us into the people He created us to be.
I am so grateful for the reminder. This little guy is safe. He's sound. He knows he's so loved. So yes, he can feel however he feels.
Sometimes I just need a little reminder to simply let it be.